Facebook As a Personal Growth Tool – “You Have 4 Friends”

Buckminster Fuller wrote “The way you do anything is the way you do everything.” I have also read that “the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior.”

So what does any of this have to do with Facebook in particular, and social networking in general?

Well, in my life I have tended to be what I like to call passive social. I usually have just a few really good friends. I love joining in on an activity, but I need to be invited (I would never be our social director, as Mynders will attest to). I am perfectly happy sitting in a comfy chair reading a good book or researching on the internet for loooong periods of time.

So when I logged onto my Facebook account in November of 2008, I was greeted with the message, ‘You Have 4 Friends.’

Wow! Four friends.

Huh.

Seems my approach to social networking was also passive social!

So it was decision time. I could approach this whole Web 2.0 phenomenon as I always have, or I could decide to change my behavior. So I took the plunge and got more active on Facebook. I looked for people who share similar interests and invited them to be friends. I accepted friend requests. Entered into conversations. Joined some groups, and actually participated in them!

And I find that as of today have approximately 4,000 friends on Facebook. Some are friends I know face to face. Some are long-lost friends that have been found again. And many are new friends I know from their photos, their pages and our chats.

I have chatted online with a new friend from Cairo, a city I have visited and loved. New friends have answered business questions I have raised. And I have been able to share some of what I have learned with others.

So now a part of every day is spent on Facebook. Most times when I log in these days, someone has commented or written something on my wall that brings a smile to my face and puts a song in my heart.

Now it seems that I have the opposite problem. I have to consciously limit the amount of time I spend each day on Facebook, so that I can get other things done in my business. But I am reassured that my friends will be there the next time I log on.

And I thank you all for that!

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  1. Carol Giambri

    Deb,
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    1. Deb

      Thanks Carol! Your kind words have absolutely made our weekend. We appreciate you as well.

      Deb & Mynders

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